for no reason...

Why do relationships come with a death wish. There is a purpose behind all that occurs, it is said but in case of a relationship going wrong, what can be the purpose? If one is willing to make the effort to keep it alive and good then why is it that this effort goes unrecognized. And if this be a pattern then can the effort sustain itself? The only purely joyous relationship in life I guess can be the one which one has with ones’ children, at least until they grow into adults and acquire the habit of sitting judgement like all others. Until then they are ready to accept you as the best parent or person in the world and all that you do for them or for your relationship with them is accepted, appreciated and rewarded in the form of the unbiased love that they give. This, perhaps, is the reason we strive all our lives, or at least most of us do, to keep them in that mould for a lifetime, as the little ones who accepted our love as pure and absolute, no questions asked or doubts raised. In all other cases, the extra baggage becomes burdensome and stifling. It is always about having to justify oneself and needing to prove how you have not done one or the other wrong/injustice. Whereas a child will accept even your wrongs as the right thing to have occurred and will still seek the love in your eyes, for all others the love gets filmed over by their own unfulfilled expectations. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could form just one relationship as innocent and non-judgemental in our lives as the one between a parent and child? Wishful thinking I guess….

About betrayal ?

There are times when you feel let down, betrayed but then the easiest thing to do under such circumstances would be to regress into playing a victim and to hold grudges and allow a freefall of negativity into your life. The more difficult option (and one which in my silly quixotic way, I choose to exercise, always) is to realize that maybe in some ways you are the originator of that. The universe is like a boomerang, it gives you nothing but what you have projected. That I guess, is the reason why some people are able to have rocking lives inspite of all odds. Maybe it was your doubts which were projected and the incident/person who appears to be the betrayer is really not responsible. It may sound foolish but take any one incident when you were really sure of yourself and you will realize that things go wrong only when you expect them to. That is the change in thinking or reorientation we all need to bring about for true happiness in our lives. Just be sure of what you want and delete negative connotations such as if or maybe from them and then throw up your wishes to the universe and I’m sure they will come back to you exactly as you envisaged.

for those who need to know

Have you ever wondered why people crib about the lack of meaningful relationships in their lives. It could be possible that they are themselves responsible bcos they did not have the vision t o see the meaningful ones or to take steps about retaining them. Its not as if some select few are chosen to be endowed while the others are discriminated against. I don’t have a single has-been kind of relation in my life. There is a special mechanism I have which I call my delete button, the moment I realize that im getting no returns in terms of investment being made by the counterparty towards sustenance of the relationship I press that button. Seems harsh and cold, doesn’t it, but I think it is the kindest act one can do, not to let any person become a wound and then a sore but to make a clean break, no questions asked and none answered.

A small step for me.....

So many clichés to confirm to, the most common being that ‘life should not be taken too seriously’. Makes me wonder, if one doesn’t take one’s life seriously then can anything have that privilege. I can be the cartoon character in everybody’s perception but there is one thing that I always take seriously and that is ‘my life’. Perhaps this is the reason why I cannot understand the carping about life’s infidelity, which goes on incessantly in the case of most people. How many of us are faithful to life, in as much as, do we ever give life a chance? At the smallest of misfortunes, poor life takes the brunt and is blamed and cursed as the perpetrator. Can we think of life as a co-traveller across time, the only one which is faithful till we pass into the beyond (another dimension of time and space, maybe). If yes, then maybe there can be a realization that life is never the perpetrator but as much the victim because it is the one thing for which the word ‘mine’ holds true more than for anything else.
This perhaps is the reason why I consider life to be my dearest friend. And it might seem quixotic but I find no reason to find faults with it ever. Not that there are no grey patches but then life is the companion who takes me past them and always will. Some might call this foolish and unrealistic but that’s the way I choose to be, to make each moment a joyous celebration of my friendship with Life! Want to join me ?