Wednesday, September 3, 2008

not an emotional outburst...

"Love makes exceptions" is a cliched notion oft repeated..but one which i have never been able to understand or follow (and i excuse those of you who are thinking that im on an emotional diatribe but this is a logical analysis of a thought that came to me). Per se it should mean that you are willing to accept or excuse the person you love for anything done or said which does not confirm to your beliefs or expectations.. And if this is right then it fails to register with me. I have no rules or expectations from people i do not love so i have no issues with making any exceptions for them, anything is acceptable when it is people who do not matter simply because it has no impact on me at all. But when it comes to someone i love i do have certain hopes and dreams (even though the enlightened would say that one should live life without expecting or depending on anyone..) and they are the ones who can hurt me if they do not live upto my thoughts. So how then is one expected to make an exception.. what would life be if one was like a rudderless boat, flowing any which way without direction or destination, accepting anything thrown on one by the people who are co-travellers on this journey. If it were a passerby then it matters not what transactions one has with them but if it is someone who has been chosen as a companion in life then it matters what he/she does and im not willing to make any exceptions for them, simply because i hold then in esteem and they need to earn that. Harsh ? Unfeeling? unemotional? maybe but i do so hope that my loved ones don't need me to make exceptions, that they will always be a personification of my desires because i truly believe that love lies in the ability of another person to interpolate and live your dreams with you..

When we talk of love, a corollary - in a relationship between a man and a woman, it is faith and respect that need to be sustained most. And speaking of faith the most common cause of loss of faith is attributed to sexual infidelity. This again is something which i do not understand, if one gives of one's body then one gives so little because it is that part of you which is perishable and only an instrument of interaction with the world. If the man i love were to give his physical self to anyone it would mean nothing other than a mortal need fulfilled but if he were to give away one thought, one dream, one desire that belonged to me, that would make me feel betrayed and i would not be willing to make an exception for that...

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